DEAR HARRIETTE: I am 25-years-old and I like a guy I have known since childhood. He likes me as a friend. I’ve told him how I feel and he says he doesn’t want to mess up our friendship. It hurts me that he can’t feel the same way as I do. Am I hurting myself by looking for him and doing things with him? I know he sees other girls and that really bothers me. Sometimes I tell myself that I am not going to look for him but in the end I end up calling him or looking for him. Please let me know how should I handle this situation? — Margie, Bronx, N.Y.

Margie: In many friendships one person likes the person more than the other. There’s nothing you can do to convince this man to love you. Showing desperation is only going to lose you your friendship altogether. Accept that he is your friend only, and look for extracurricular activities to fill your time so that you aren’t tempted to track him down.